Although spring is synonymous with new beginnings, this is not always the case romantic relationships among today’s youth. During their parents’ generation, the relationship was expected to flourish marriage. Today, relationship cohesion is often a matter of comfort over time. Many young adult relationships fade and end. It can be devastating for someone self-esteem.
A large number anecdotal reports they note that April is the month of separation. The theories behind this time range from defiance to the desire for a fresh start.
Psychological consequences of separation
According to Freeman et al. (2023), “Today, Western-educated young men and women spend most of their third decade of life (ie, ages 20-29) in nonmarital unions. While formal marriage has been delayed or rejected, the majority of young adults are still seeking partnerships, and about 75 percent of premarital marriages in the United States.”
But even in non-marital unions, when these romantic relationships fail, research shows that divorce can vulnerable for young people.
However, evidence from Aviles et al. (2020) in European magazine Personality indicates that “(b) while unmarried adolescence and maturity does not seem to pose a threat to the development of self-esteem of young people. Although the months of a breakup can be devastating, research shows that within three months, people can return to pre-breakup levels.
Rumination has negative effects
However, there is an exception to the three-month recovery schedule – rumination. It seems that meditation can be harmful on several levels, from physical health to psychological consequences.
In a study related to the roles of rumination and coping strategies in the formation of adaptation to separation stress (Mancon et al., 2025), “Rumination was found to be a significant predictor of negative outcomes in academic performance and physical health.” Rumination can interfere with the ability to get things done and can even harm mental health.
How to stay positive after a breakup
- Avoid thinking: Negativity leads to it depression.
- Start your days with gratitude: By expressing gratitude—even for a lost love—you remind yourself of the good times you shared.
- Resist negative words: Despite the temptation to speak negatively about your ex, speaking kindly will encourage you to maintain a positive focus.
- Practice picture swapping: If you’re feeling alone and down in a dark hole, find a picture of yourself in a happier time. Focus on your inner self, the person you know is lovable and worthy of new love.
- Try using a gratitude journal: Research from Gary Lewandowski, Ph.D., found that writing about the positive aspects of a breakup increases feelings such as comfort, confidencepower, energy, happiness, optimismrelief, satisfaction, thank youand wisdom.
- Beware of repeating the past: When looking for new love remember traits that led to your breakup.
- Consider Rekindled Love: The new person may not be “the one” for you, but maybe the “one right now” will lift your spirits and together the two of you can bring each other some happiness.
Return value: Remember that the warmth of a naturally sensitive and caring person is like sunshine – a little goes a long way.
Copyright 2026 Rita Watson, MPH
