In the midst of loss, it is very easy to see what is being taken and hard to see what is being given.
In my life, I realized that every family will experience losses, but I thought that my family would definitely not experience a huge amount. I believed fantasy The formula states that if we do not harm people and do our best to support others, we will likely be safe from significant losses. I also enjoyed the thought that maybe my love could make the relationship permanent – I mean, just a lifetime.
Well, I have three daughters. One died two days after birth. Another was born with a severe neurological disability that impairs both fine and gross motor skills. It took me a while to see Sarah outside the shroud of ability. The voice of “He and I deserve more” is now almost completely silent. Sarah recently turned 51 and I have been asked to be with the courage, simplicity and love she brings. My third daughter has been away from her family for more than 25 years. My daughters teach me about loss. One is no longer on the planet, one is in a place far from home, and one is showing me how to embrace uniqueness with grace.
Dreams die hard
Losing someone or something we value is painful. Loss often means that we end up as someone’s parent. brotheror spouse. We build a life, a meaningful life, with the one we love. This person now lives only in us memory. We cannot touch them, hold them, or see them in the countless ways they have touched us. When we let go of the life we created, our grief deepens. We are asked to make peace with what was and could be. we dreams take away our hopes and dreams that turn a day into a lifetime, a lifetime that can be taken away in an instant.
Creating a relationship with loss
If we’re honest, most of us don’t want to be in a relationship with loss. We just want it to go away. However, look away, it won’t happen. Life is about change. Nothing is permanent, no matter how much we want it to be. Being alive is therefore a feeling of change and the inherent loss that accompanies it.
When we insist on not having a relationship with loss, we can only react to loss. We react positively to favorable losses and we protest or feel victimized by unfavorable losses. Another option is to create a relationship with loss. Perhaps one that allows for more ease and stability.
Here are some possible elements of a business relationship with losses:
- Acceptance. Upon closer inspection, acceptance seems like a viable option because not accepting losses does nothing. When we stand there and say, “I don’t accept you!”, the loss continues. There is something honest and humbling about accepting loss as an essential part of life. Honesty is an admission that we cannot stop loss from happening, and it is also a humble acknowledgment of the immensity of life.
- Living on life’s terms. Acceptance doesn’t just happen because we say we will. We practice acceptance one day at a time, and that may mean not accepting for a while. Over time, our acceptance can deepen and bring us into a deeper relationship with life. With a measure panic and surprisingly, we worship the immensity of life and want to live mainly on the terms of life, which include being mysterious, unpredictable and insecure. Sometimes there is an opportunity to exercise our will and make something happen.
- To allow sadness. Grief allows us to maintain our relationship with life in the midst of loss. Grief is the sound of your broken heart. Let your broken heart sing its fire (angeranger and feelings of betrayal) and its water (moaning, sadness and grief). If you suppress your fire and water, pools of stagnant water will extinguish the fire of your soul. Your soul can wither in the rot of resentment. Your own life and soul are strangers to you. Let your broken heart have a voice. You may be tempted to curse the gods for stealing who or what you love. Your broken heart will speak of the tenderness it received in a surprising way and will not forget. Let the breaking be an outpouring of the intimacy you have allowed, the intimacy that sits on the edge of now and eternity.
- Getting close. Who wants to be closer to loss? The alternative could be crazier, running away from love and its dark side – loss. If you want to make peace with life, then approaching loss is a great way to do it. Approaching the loss means accepting more and more of it, which increases over time. And being curious by wondering what loss requires. When I become curious, I hear: “Get to know me, the dark side of life. Find out how you can best serve, especially those who have been harmed. Be respectful. Be sad. Lose protest less.”
- Asking: “What has been given?” I’m ashamed to say that I thought the loss would only take something. I learned that loss gives a great deal. Loss is a holy good news. Old definition of the word holy “confirms that it really matters.” We all get distracted and lose sight of what really matters. We come across various interesting sights. we bring attention to those who start towards us Social media post and try to make the brand really impress. Loss brings us back to what really matters. Losing also helps curb my ego and reminds me of how little control I have. No matter how different we are, loss connects me to others.
Living on life’s terms means deciding to have an honest relationship with loss. One where we recognize that loss is inevitable and you shouldn’t just consider it unfortunate. Then, it allows for a cease-fire with losses through a deeper level of acceptance. When the tension between you and life subsides, you and life are at peace. Learning and creating becomes powerful, which could not happen in a war zone.
