Vulnerability and perceived threat are activated anger. The more vulnerable we feel, the more threat we perceive, so hungry or injured animals become more feral. Anger evolved in humans to protect emotional bonds, territory, and self. But most of our anger today comes from threats to the self. As our egos expand, we experience more insults from the world that doesn’t fit our strong egos.
Anger prepares us to control or neutralize perceived threats through warning, intimidation, or injury.
In relationships, chronic anger creates power struggles, turns partners into rivals, and ultimately destroys them. proximity. At work, it increases errors in judgment and performance. We are never as right or as smart as we think when we are angry.
Anger breeds a sense of entitlement—my rights are greater than yours—and entitlement breeds anger when superior rights are not recognized. It prompts us to demand respect when disrespected, fair treatment when unfair, and love when angry. Entitlement deprives relationships of their highest emotional experience – appreciation.
Anger can feel like an addiction when we use it for energy. confidence, motivationpain relief, or to improve anxiety or depressed mood. When not angry, some people lack energy and motivation or are more likely to experience anxiety depression. Then they can become angry reasons.
As noted Redford and Virginia Williams in his book, Anger killsFrequent anger can shorten life and increase the risk of heart attack, stroke, depression, anxiety, paranoia, psychosisand addiction.
Bilateral behavior
Every time we devalue someone else, we devalue ourselves—the devaluing of others locks us into devalued states. The feeling of hatred makes us hateful, the feeling of hatred makes us hateful. Policymakers have long misunderstood the double edge of anger-inducing behavior. They ride a wave of anger into office, only to be ousted by the next wave of anger. Regret almost always follows decisions made in anger.
The double cycle of behavior also works by increasing emotions. We benefit greatly from being kind to others and from good thoughts—wishing someone well, happinessand improvement. The surest way to gain self-worth is through positive thinking and behavior.
Anger against anger
Anger is an intense and relatively rare form of anger. Characterized by intense angry impulses, anger flares from a perceived violation of rights, status, or personality. borders. Simple anger rarely turns into anger without underlying chronic anger.
Expressed anger looks out of control, scary and dangerous. It can also seem silly. Suppressed anger seems like the body is soaked in thin clay – stiff muscles, swollen veins on the face and neck. Whether expressed or suppressed, repeated anger leads to it self-righteousness.
Except for cases of mental disorders, children do not get angry. They have tantrums that include screaming, stomping feet, and flailing arms. At worst, they throw something or try to hurt themselves or others. Shame Children tend to have more frequent and intense tantrums, and the risk of them spreading into adulthood. It’s better to show them how to manage their emotions and frustrations.
Anger and hatred
Chronic anger does not necessarily turn into hatred, but the transformation is very common. Hate is an emotional virus that spreads quickly and violently. Trying to fight hate makes it stronger and spread. It is more effective to let it out with compassion and respect, which over time replaces the impulse to destroy with a desire to build, at least in those who react to the hatred of other people.
If you are addicted to hate, determine if the qualities you hate in others are the same qualities you have but reject. We must embrace the qualities we have overlooked in order to overcome them. When we refine the disliked traits in ourselves, the hatred towards others disappears and with it, the self-deluding impulse to destroy.
