Our cultures worship, perhaps not an exaggeration expansion, which we can define as “increase in size”. We seem to like everything that gets bigger: our cars, our bank accounts, our online presence, our properties, our reputations, whatever we can get and how many hours we can spend working. We may be surprised by our enthusiasm expansion that we do not notice what is being sacrificed. It may be our tendency to refuse drag increases automatically expansion.
An abusive contraction
It seems that we want a life that is just a series expansion, in the form of successes, celebrations, fun, winnings, pleasant surprises and the acquisition of new insights or skills. On the other hand, drag shows a decrease in activity, slowness and procrastination drag often when we feel sadnessfailure, feardefeat, feeling lost and tired. There are at least two reasons for our displeasure drag Our first to refuse from death Death can be the ultimate expression of a drag, with sadness, loss of energy and interests reminding of death. The second is our obsession happinesswhich defines misery only inappropriately. This mandate of happiness confuses us about the nature of love, responsibility, freedom, courage and maturity, all of which have moments of failure and loss. The unbridled pursuit of happiness leaves us with a distorted, skewed view of life.
Renewal of the contract
I look out my window in winter and see the basic expression drag Plants enter a dormant phase when blocked, slowing down their growth and metabolic processes. Trees lose their leaves to conserve water and energy. Animals sleep by slowing down their metabolism and breathing. Our body is constantly is expanding and contractual. Muscle cells, lungs and heart are in this rhythm of expansion and contraction. Our psychology is like that is expanding and contractual. Success and failure, winning and losing, feelings of safety and fear, dealing with the familiar and the lost. We can’t just respect expansion but also hopes to be fully alive.
Respect for mental stress
Have we pathologized psychological disorders because of ourselves fear of death and our obsession with being happy? If we look carefully at the word psychopathology, prefix psychologist comes from Greek mental, meaning “soul”. Hence the word psychopathology means “pain of the soul”, not “fixing the pain of the soul”. When we go to a drag Look for a bad depression episode and medication medicine. This is how many of my clients feel shame when they decide they are depressedwhich means they are not happy. I encourage them to see what is going on drag and avoid using the word depressed and needing shame. I also encourage the use of the word melancholywhich means “sad and sad”.
Allowing decay and teaching melancholy
Concrete measures are being taken to learn from us contract practices.
- Reminders. You may be the natural process of transitioning to a drag
- Talk about it. It may be that talking to a friend or support group can help you overcome any shyness associated with drag The goal is to understand suffering, not to quickly fill our medicine cabinets. Masochistically prolonging suffering is not the goal, nor is quick recourse to Big Pharma.
- Stop the war. If you are struggling with your melancholy or are not interested in what it may require, then seek the help of a professional psychologist.
- A significant amount often accompanies the contraction. Melancholy makes us withdraw from the hustle and bustle of ordinary life. Silence brings us to the threshold where some unknown aspect is ready to reveal itself.
- Suicide Idea. Sometimes thoughts of harming yourself may accompany it dragespecially when our thoughts are clouded. It is time for therapeutic support not only for protection and safety, but also to discover what wants to die. The ego tends to increase the vital ending, deciding that suicide is the answer. Usually, there is an aspect of us that wants to end. It could be someone who has a broken heart after a breakup, or someone who has suffered a major setback or self-loathing. We turn against life just because we believe it has turned against us. Such deaths want to give birth, something comes to an end and there is a rebirth experience.
It is very easy to believe that all actions expansion they are filled with joy and excitement, they have no place for suffering. Appendix maturity, workaholism and romantic obsession can bring us to our knees burn, stressand despair. We are less likely to overcompensate wide experiences if we allow the natural flow of movement from it expansion to drag. Old definition of the word drag is “pulling together”. In peace and quiet sorrow, we can pull together dreamsdreams and intentions. Contracts support renewal and readiness to participate in life with greater depth and meaning. Like an old oak tree in winter, we store up our strength for the spring of our lives.
