By Michelle OrawitzAP, L.Ac, FABORM
If you’re on a fertility journey, you already know—it’s not just about ovulation charts and supplements. It’s about hope, heartache, anticipation, wondering, and sometimes… feeling completely lost in the process.
I see you. And if no one has told you this: You are not broken. You are becoming.
Over the years as an acupuncturist and fertility coach, I have seen many women do everything “right” but still feel like something is missing. And honestly? I think it’s because we’ve been taught to treat fertility as a problem to be solved — not an invitation to return home.
Let’s change that.
It’s not just about your hormones – it’s about your energy
In Chinese medicine, fertility isn’t just about your reproductive organs, it’s about flow. Blood flow. The flow of Qi (life force). Emotional flow. When things are stuck in your body or your life, it can reflect on your reproductive health.
So when a woman walks into my clinic with irregular periods, painful periods, or unexplained infertility, I don’t just ask what supplements she’s taking. I ask the following:
- Where are you struggling in your life?
- Where have you been told to “be positive” instead of being emotional?
- When was the last time you felt connected to your body… not just following it?
Your womb is not just a physical space. It is emotional and energetic. When it’s tense, guarded, or inattentive – it often needs more listening than coercion.
The sacred (and sometimes messy) business of fertility coaching
One of the most powerful tools I’ve seen change the game for women TTC (trying to conceive) is fertility coaching.
And no, you don’t need to “figure it all out” to get started. Coaching is not about mastering another set of fertility. It’s about having someone walk beside you who understands it deeply and helps you connect the dots between your emotions, your body, and your cycle.
Many of my clients come to this saying, “I’ve done everything. Why isn’t anything working?”
And often, the biggest changes come not from doing, but from softening into who they really are. Release control. They feel safe in their body again. will be held.
When this happens, something opens up. Not just physically, but energetically. And yes, sometimes that’s when conception happens. But most importantly? This is where the treatment begins.
5 Soft Transitions That Can Change Everything
If you’re feeling overwhelmed or burned out on your fertility journey, I want to offer you this: You don’t have to overhaul your entire life. You just have to start listening.
Here are five shifts I often recommend:
- Feel it, don’t fake it.
Forget “just think positive”. Your feelings are holy messengers, not problems to be fixed. Cry when you need to. Rant in the car. Record your anger and sadness. It all belongs. - Don’t just track your ovulation.
Notice how your energy flows through your cycle. Do you feel premenstrual? Inspired during ovulation? These are examples you wisdom - Eat warm and nutritious meals.
In TCM heat supports the uterus. Hot soups, stews and teas support digestion and circulation. Cold smoothies and raw salads can lead to increased coldness and stagnation, which can counteract this necessary flow. - Disable rest.
Sleep is your body’s recovery and healing time. Aim for 7-9 hours of quality sleep and try to go tech-free for an hour before bed (your hormones will thank you!). - Bring back the ritual.
Light a candle before going to bed. Massage the abdomen with warm castor oil. Write a letter to your future child. These simple actions shift your nervous system from “working” to “receiving.”
You are allowed to hope… and you are also allowed to hurt
Some days you will feel strong and optimistic. Other days, you can scream into your pillow. This is good. Both are real. Both are valid. Productivity is not a straight line – it’s a spiral. And every step forward is also a step deeper towards yourself.
What if it’s not just about having a baby…
Whether you get pregnant this month, or next year, or choose a different motherhood path – your story matters. Your body deserves love right now. Not just when the test is positive.
Want someone in your corner?
If that sounds like it, I want to support you. You can schedule a free 15 minute fertility discovery call with me Healthy Lotus Clinic. We will explore your unique path and how we can help your body and heart return to balance.
You are not alone. You are not broken. You are strong.
And I pour it on you.
With love and healing,
Michelle Orawitz
Michelle Orawitz, L.Ac, FABORM is a fertility acupuncturist and former architect whose life was transformed by acupuncture after struggling with irregular periods for years. Inspired by her healing journey, she switched careers in the early 2000s to study Ayurveda and Traditional Chinese Medicine, eventually specializing in reproductive wellness. Michelle combines acupuncture, herbs, nutrition, essential oils and mindfulness practices to support women and couples on their journey to pregnancy. He is the host Healthy Fertility Podcast and share resources in thewholesomelotus.com and thewholesomefertilitymethod.com.
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