When we’re in conflict with our partner, it’s scary: broken promises lead to betrayal, generosity of spirit turns to defensiveness, and sense of belonging becomes destructive. Conflicts are inevitable in relationships and how you deal with them is very important. Some of us become masters at avoiding confrontation and vulnerability. Some of us continue to believe in a stronger love and persist in trying again. Most people take a “take what you can get” attitude, believing that all relationships are an uneasy compromise. Soul offers a fourth solution: navigating our Divinity.
Intuition is the voice of the soul. Much of the work of navigating relationships depends on our intuitive ability to clearly hear the wisdom of Soul. Because the ego is quick to react or judge, sometimes it takes work to raise ourselves to the vibration of our emotional love story. And most of us live as unwitting hobbyists.
We sometimes get clarity through sleep, a sudden sudden sensation, or a ping in our gut. But the skill of truly hearing and heeding the wisdom of the Soul requires becoming an intuitive professor. Instead of waiting for intuitive moments to come to us, we consciously build our intuitive muscles and learn to listen for specific answers to life’s questions when needed, even when we are stressed or in crisis.
Spirit dialogue occurs when we create a two-way dialogue between the voice of the ego and the voice of our soul, out loud or in our head. We begin by asking the question from our perspective as ego and then listen with our intuition to receive the answer from spirit. As with any new skill, it can be strange and difficult at first as our mind adjusts to a different form of internal dialogue. But whenever we speak directly to soul, we strengthen our emotional listening muscles. Developing a relationship with Soul through intuitive dialogue helps the ego recognize, understand, and ultimately trust this new inner spiritual teacher. We believe that the most effective way to embody the spirit is through consistent and daily practice with these techniques.
Mindfulness is a simple technique, but it also requires practice. In order to hear the voice of the soul, we must clearly understand what the ego is (programmed drives, societal influences, fears disguised as love) and what the spirit is. Acknowledging and listening to the Spirit ensures connection and the experience of love, but also shows us how we love racially. Fully embodying the greatness of love is a process that takes time – but once we come to know our own divine nature, trust in our inner genius grows.
True love or supposed love
Asking for soul’s advice, thoughts, and guidance brings soul into our minds, hearts, and relationships. As we apply Soul Wisdom, we strengthen our own connection to our soul and ultimately develop a conscious soul connection with our partners. One of the simplest and most profound ways to speak to the soul is to ask yourself, “What does love say?” These four magic words harness the power of intention to activate our inner remote control and tune us into the station of love. When you speak directly to love, you explore your own unique version of love—in other words, your soul.
However, as humans, we often misinterpret the inner voice of love. Depending on our upbringing, we may interpret needy attachment or dependence as love. We may think that our love and self-worth is based solely on our ability to provide financially for our partner. We may think that love will solve every problem of our partner and constantly save them from their uncomfortable feelings. We can think that love will stay in a relationship until death do us part, even if we are hopelessly unhappy.
The Spirit corrects these false beliefs, introducing us to true love. Love is not fear-based, clingy, or reactive; Love is completely and utterly perfect, a force of its own. To know love, we must remove our human preconceptions and limitations from love. We must approach the investigation of love with an open heart, a rational understanding, and a clean slate.
We know it sounds simple, but sometimes it can be quite difficult. In fact, we often find that clients think they are connected to their own soul when they engage in self-interpretation or the assumption of a soul spirit. This fateful attempt to truly solve the problem of the soul does not work.
Too often people think of Spirit and assume that because they have “spiritual watches” that they have a personal and direct relationship with Spirit. But one is intellectual, the other requires vulnerability and courage. Talking about love is not the same as talking with love. When we speak with love, we engage directly with the universal energy that generates the embodiment of our sacred self. This is not a light task; One of them is to destroy illusions. Ultimately, our job is to destroy everything that stands in the way of love.
Spiritual dialogue is a precise and disciplined approach to creating an intimate and accountable relationship with your higher self. When done right, it removes our own preconceived notions of love and shows how love is greater than we can ever imagine. To do this well, we humble the soul, align with the energy of love, and be transformed by the spirit. This intimate relationship with love changes everything. There are no shortcuts. This spiritual skill relies entirely on a direct connection with the Soul. Spirit must be invoked accurately to have a deep and lasting effect.
Elisa Romeo, MFTand Adam Foley the authors Sacred Love: A Basic Guide to Encouraging Relationships and Sacred and Human podcast partners. Together, they help individuals awaken and deepen their spiritual nature in relationships. To them online http://www.holyandhuman.com
Excerpt from the book Sacred Love: A Basic Guide to Encouraging Relationships. Copyright © 2022 by Elisa Romeo, MFT and Adam Foley. Reprinted with permission from New World Library – http://www.newworldlibrary.com.
